Mad at someone….

...Forgive them or ignore them for good

This is my theory. Call me stupid, call me a tomfool, call me soft...call me whatever crosses your mind…. but this is me. I am sure some of the people agree with me… But again I seldom get angry. I don’t normally argue with people (it does not mean that I am a walkover).
I know it’s hard to forgive someone (if you are really mad). It’s easier said than done. But common guys it is not impossible, is It.?

Just imagine if you are going out on a date. And if you really like her/him and if that person did something, which made you really angry, I bet you would say…."its ok- no problem…anyone could have done that”. And if that were someone else like your friends, family members or even some stranger, then you would go all nuts. Why? Because you like this person and trying to impress…so you are ignoring the bad things...
At home my family got this annoying habit (I guess most of the people are like that). For them it’s not a big deal and its normal for them. But it does get on my nerves. I am not talking about serious stuff...but silly things like.
If someone has done something wrong, they will have a go at them or say something. Ok fair enough. But the annoying thing is that they will keep on talking about it for hours if not days. Dragging it all day along. It would die down for a while and then after few minutes, someone will go “I told you..” …Here we go again…. same thing…and the person will start his/her defence argument… No one wants to let it go.
If someone makes you mad and angry, by doing something wrong…. there could be (only) 2 reasons…. One, it might be a mistake…or its done intentionally…. My theory is that if it’s a mistake…you got to forgive the person…as no one is perfect and everyone makes mistake… Or if it’s done deliberately…just ignore…. because its no point arguing and fighting with a person, who has done deliberately to hurt you or to annoy you…he does not care about you…. so why are you wasting your breath…. If its my own sister or mother or father or anyone from my family…they wouldn’t do anything deliberately, so it’s a mistake…so you got to forgive them and carry on…its not end of the world. Is it…they drag the problem forever… Some times…someone we love or care…will have annoying habits….they will do that once in a while…they cant help it….if that’s the case we need to just ignore them…. Because we need to love other people specially family and friends for whom they are…not trying to change the way they live…. and whom you want them to be…then you are loving a person of your mirror image…

நீ இப்படி இருந்தாள் தான், நான் உன்னோடு கதைப்பேன், நேசிப்பேன் பாசமாக இருப்பேன் என்றாள்...then your love and care is conditional….

I know its human nature. They can’t seems to change. But whatever they do or tell or even if they argue for silly things all day along…. I love them to bits…. they are my life…parents, sisters and my BILs and their kids…without them I wouldn’t be here at this juncture of my life..

எதும் எதிர்பார்க்காமல்
எந்த நிபந்தனையும் போடாமல்
நாடு, மதம், வயது
ஆணா, பெண்ணா
ஒண்ணும் அறியாமல்
பாசமாக பேசி
அன்பு காட்டுவது தான்
உண்மையான பாசம், நட்பு, காதல்.....என் கண்ணில்
அப்படி தான் நான்

For people like those I will do anything…May be that’s my weakness…

மண உணர்ச்சிகள் சிருகதை என்றாள்
நம் உறவுகள் ஒரு தொடர்கதை

(Emotions are like short stories; Family and Friends are like soap opera)